Barbara CarrellasMeet Barbara Carrellas:

Hi there. I'm Barbara Carrellas.

I Believe...

  • that pleasure is good for you and ecstasy is necessary.
  • in a conscious sexuality that celebrates the body as a path to self awareness, personal freedom, and spiritual growth.
  • that the combination of love, consciousness, and sexual energy can change anything.

My Mission...

... is to help you feel more deeply, love more consciously, and create your life as a great work of art. You have everything you need to do this inside you right now. I'll simply help facilitate your process by creating an environment in which you can flourish.

My Intention...

... is to make sex an ecstatic experience for you—the unique and perfect being that you already are. I want to help you to create a sex life that fulfills your physical, sensual and spiritual potential. I'm not interested in making you into someone you are not. Each and every one of us is on our own individual sexual evolutionary path. Perhaps you've always hoped that there was something more to sexuality than ten or so minutes of bumping and grunting. Maybe you've always known that sex was your spiritual path. Perhaps you're somewhere in the middle. Wherever you are in your sexual evolution, you've come to the right place—pull up a chair and get comfy.

Who am I and why should you pay attention to anything I have to say?

I'll bet we have a lot in common, sexually speaking. I did not come from a background that encouraged any sort of sexual freedom or exploration. I grew up in an immigrant Catholic, New England household with parents who were terrified that I might ruin my life by getting pregnant before I was married. The only time anyone spoke about sex, it was with the same encouragement I would have received if I'd announced I wanted to play a rousing game of Russian Roulette. I lost my virginity at age 15 to an older man I was crazy about and it was a wonderful experience.

As much as I liked sex, my real passion was the theatre. Actually, the two went together very well, as the theatre community was a far more liberal, sexually explorative community than the one I grew up in. I was lucky. I was successful in the theatre, first as a performer and stage manager, later as a Broadway and Off-Broadway general manager and producer. Along the way, I had both committed monogamous relationships and my fair share of casual sex. In the early 1980's everything about my life in the theatre and my sex life began to change.

AIDS Changed Everything...

Urban TantraBecause I worked in the arts in New York City, a large percentage of the people I knew were gay men. They and I were at one of the epicenters of what would soon become the AIDS crisis. Ironically enough, AIDS is what led me to the study and passionate pursuit of sexuality. In the 1970's sex had equaled liberation; now it equaled death. I had grown up with this kind of message. I wasn't about to listen to it again. I was determined to help find a way for my gay male friends (and all the rest of us) to be able to have sex again—this time sex that was completely safe, emotionally and physically healing, and also mind-blowingly ecstatic. During my quest for safe, hot, healing sex, I found the inspiration and the material for what would eventually become my book, Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century.

The essence of my work—and the theme that runs through all my books—is the inseparable connection between your sex life and the rest of your life, and the happy integration of body, mind, and spirit.

luxurious loving ecstasy is necessary

Here on

...I will bring you a holistic, metaphysical, practical, humorous, entertaining and gender-fluid approach to conscious sexuality. For me, sexuality has always contained healing and spiritual intentions. These elements inform all of my work as an author, sex educator, sex/life coach, university lecturer, workshop facilitator, motivational speaker and theater artist. Here on I'll be offering articles, products, tips, videos, podcasts, user polls and lots more that I hope will instruct and inspire you. You'll find an eclectic mix of offerings designed to encourage people of all genders and sexual preferences to expand their capacity for both pleasure and spiritual fulfillment.

With ecstasy and love,


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